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Monday Morning Wisdom #199


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Monday Morning Wisdom #198



Monday Morning Wisdom #197

Monday Morning Wisdom #197

“Everyone’s first pages are awful. Just hold your nose and write. Today’s sh*t is tomorrow’s compost.” – Hallie Ephron

In the Meme Time: Sharers of Dreams


Sharers of Dreams

Seven Things Nobody Told Me About Writing

Seven Things Nobody Told Me About Writing

I love to write. I write by choice. I am blessed that I’ve had two good seasons in which to write: when I stayed home to raise my young children, and now that I’m retired from paid labor. But there are days when I wonder what ever possessed me to decide to be a writer. Why didn’t anyone tell me—


  1. You won’t become rich from your first publication. (In fact, you may devote thousands of hours into projects that you never earn any money from.) I actually believed all I needed was one article published, and the world of publications would all be clamoring for the next and the next, and my career as a magazine writer would be established, and I’d be able to support my family with my writing. It’s a commonly-believed fallacy. When people hear I’m working on a book, they often say, “Pretty soon you’ll be rich and famous!” Which leads me to point number two. . .
  2. You won’t become famous from your first publication. (There are exceptions to this rule, but they are rare.) One of the best moments of my writing career happened twenty years ago when a local journalist came to my house to interview my daughter, who’d participated in a poetry workshop at the local library. The reporter turned to me and said, “And you write for Raising Arizona Kids.” I’d had ten or twelve freelance articles printed in the magazine over the course of ten years. It was the first (and only) time a stranger recognized me because of my work. So much for fame.
  3. How hard it is to explain to someone you live with that his frequent, brief interruptions sabotage your work. I love my husband dearly, but he’s retired, and I long for the days when he had a day job. He is always home, and he loves having someone to talk to. 99% of the time, that someone is me. He calls me from the other side of the house if there’s something funny on TV that he thinks I should see. He comes into my office to show me the progress he’s making on a gunstock he’s carving. And then he comes back a half hour later to show me again. Sometimes he talks to me while I’m feverishly typing, hoping to get a thought down while it’s still in my mind. Speaking of which. . .
  4. How much you forget. If I get an idea, or I think of a clever way to phrase something, I have to write it down immediately or I can’t remember it five minutes later. I have lots of notebooks full of ideas. Sometimes I’ll reread something I wrote long ago that I thought was a masterpiece—and I’ll discover it was not nearly as well-written as I remembered. Or I’ll come across something I journaled that is brilliant—and I have no recollection of ever writing it. (How come I used to be that smart, but I’m not anymore?)
  5. How long it takes between the time something is accepted for publication and it actually comes out in print. My first freelance article came out almost a year after the editor accepted it. Seeing it in print was anticlimactic. I had waited for the moment for so long that it wasn’t satisfying at all. Even the check seemed dinky after all that waiting.
  6. How procrastination plagues writers. I am a firm believer in establishing a daily writing time. Mine is noon to 4:00 pm. I am usually in my office doing writing-related work—sharing my blog posts on social media, rewriting my WIP, or looking through my files for a piece to enter in a writing contest. Or I might be straightening my desk, playing Full Deck Solitaire, or clicking through folk dance videos. As much as I want to devote my writing time to writing, I’m often distracted. Or I just don’t feel like writing. Maybe I’ve started my next blog post and I’m not sure which direction to continue it. It’s incredibly difficult to stay focused every day, especially if you’re your own boss; it takes discipline.
  7. You might have to write several novels before you have one that is publishable. I completed three novels that never sold. Maybe they’ll never be salable; maybe I can resurrect them someday. I have another one that I’ve been working on for twenty years; it’s changed a lot, and I truly believe in it. I have two others that are outlined and started, but they are on the back burner until I finish The Unicornologist. It’s my dream book. If someone had explained to me that some people have a long learning curve and may take decades to get their first novel published, maybe I would have gone to med school or law school or astronaut training, you know, something you can learn quickly. . .

Writing and coffee

Maybe you haven’t committed yourself to writing yet. In that case, I’ve done you a service by telling you the downside I didn’t know before I became a writer. You’ve been warned. Run away now. Fast! Or proceed at your own risk.

If you are a writer, now it’s your turn. Have you experienced disappointments along the way? Has your profession failed to live up to your expectations? Is there something I didn’t list that you wish you had known before you started writing? Share in the comments below.

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Monday Morning Wisdom #196





Many thanks to Ryan Lanz of A Writer’s Path for this article on good writing.


Writers use dialogue tags constantly. In fact, we use them so often that readers all but gloss over them. They should be invisible. However, there are ways to misuse them and make them stand out.

In an effort to avoid that, let’s take a closer look at dialogue tags. Toward the end of “Tag travesties” is something I sorely wish someone had told me before I started writing.

Why do we use dialogue tags?
The simple answer is that we use them to indicate who’s speaking. In visual media, such as movies or television, the viewer can easily tell who’s talking by lip movement and camera angles. When reading a book, obviously that’s not an option.

Tag travesties
There are certainly ways to misuse dialogue tags. When I was a new writer, I felt compelled to overwrite. I ‘m sure every new writer goes through a version of this. I observed how successful writers used simple tags like “said/asked” and thought to myself, that’s boring. I’m going to be an awesome writer by making them more interesting. You don’t have to admit it aloud, writers, but we all know that most of us have. Let’s look at an example of this:

  • “We can’t cross this river,” Alanna exclaimed repugnantly.
  • John crossed the room and shouted disgustedly, “I’ll never take you with me.”
  • “This has been the worst day ever,” Susie cried angrily.

For those of you who still aren’t convinced, let’s up the dosage with a paragraph:

Hank crossed the room and sat down. “We should have never waited this long for a table,” he seethed, leaning over to glare at her. 
“If you wanted a better spot, you should have called ahead for a reservation,” Trudy returned pointedly.
“Well, perhaps if you didn’t take so long to get ready, I could have,” he countered dryly.

Can you imagine reading an entire book like that? *shiver*

So why do new writers feel the urge to be that . . . creative with their dialogue tags? Back in the beginning, I thought the typical tags of “said/asked” were too boring and dull. It didn’t take me long to realize that dull (in this context) is the point.

Imagine your words as a window pane of glass, and the story is behind it. Your words are merely the lens that your story is seen through. The thicker the words, the cloudier the glass gets. If you use huge words, purple prose, or crazy dialogue tags, then all you’re doing is fogging up the glass through which your reader is trying to view your story. The goal is to draw as little attention to your actual words as possible; therefore, you keep the glass as clear as possible, so that the reader focuses on the story. Using tags like “said/asked” are so clear, they’re virtually invisible.

Now, does that mean that you can’t use anything else? Of course not. Let’s look further.

Alternate dialogue tags
Some authors say to never use anything other than “said/asked,” while others say to heck with the rules and use whatever you want. Some genres (such as romance) are more forgiving about using alternate dialogue tags. I take a more pragmatic approach to it. I sometimes use lines like:

“I’m glad we got out of there,” she breathed.

The very important question is how often. I compare adverbs and alternate dialogue tags to a strong spice. Some is nice, but too much will spoil the batch. Imagine a cake mix with a liter of vanilla flavoring, rather than the normal tablespoon. The more often you use anything other than “said/asked,” the stronger the flavor. If it’s too powerful, it’ll tug the reader away from the story and spotlights those words. In a full length book of around 85,000 words, I personally use alternate dialogue tags only around a few dozen times total.

By saving them, the pleasant side effect is that when I do use them, they pack more of an emotional punch.

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